If you want a new outcome, you will have to break the habit of being yourself, and reinvent a new self. By repeatedly thinking and feeling the same way you did before, and the day before that, you will continue to create the same circumstances in your life, which will cause you to experience the same emotions, which will influence you to think “equal to” those emotions. If you insist on thinking and feeling equal to the circumstances in your life, you will reaffirm that particular reality.
Your internal thoughts and feelings exactly match your external life, because it is your outer reality – with all of its problems, conditions, and circumstances – that is influencing how you’re thinking and feeling in your inner reality.
Every day, as you see the same people (your boss, for example, and your spouse and kids), do the same things (drive to work, perform your daily tasks, and do the same workout), go to the same places (your favorite coffee shop, the grocery store you frequent, and your place of employment), and look at the same objects (your car, your house, your toothbrush … even your own body), your familiar memories related to you known world “re-mind” you to reproduce the same experiences. Has you brain changed at all that day?
It is our personality that creates our personal reality. So to create a new personal reality, a new life, we must create a new personality; we must become someone else. To change, then, is to think and act greater than our present circumstances, greater than our environment.
When our behaviors match our intentions, when our actions are equal to our thoughts, when our minds and our bodies are working together, when our words and our deeds are aligned… there is an immense power behind any individual.
When one holds a dream independent of the environment, that’s greatness.
When feelings become the means of thinking, or if we cannot think greater than how we feel, we can never change. To change is to think greater than how we feel. To change is to act greater than the familiar feelings of the memorized self.
To forget about the people we know, the problems we have, the things we own, and the places we go; to lose track of time; to go beyond the body and its need to feed its habituations; to give up the high from emotionally familiar experiences that reaffirm the identity; to detach from trying to predict a future condition or review a past memory; to lay down a selfish ego that is only concerned with its needs; to think or dream greater than how we feel, and crave the unknown – this is the beginning of freedom from our present lives.
Change all begins with thinking: and nothing gets the brain more excited than when it’s learning – assimilating knowledge and experiences. These are aphrodisiacs for the brain. To change our lives, we first have to change our thoughts and feelings, then do something (change our actions or behaviors) to have a new experience, which in turn produces a new feeling, and then we must memorize that feeling until we move into a state of being (when mind and body are one).
Can you, too, change who you are by thought alone?
To fully break the habit of being yourself, say good-bye to cause and effect and embrace the quantum model of reality. Choose a potential reality that you want, live it in your thoughts and feelings, and give thanks ahead of actual event. Can you accept the notion that once you change your internal state, you don’t need the external world to provide you with a reason to feel joy, gratitude, appreciation, or any other elevated emotion?
It’s possible that you have been living by a memorized emotion that has become so much a part of your identity, on a subconscious level, that now you cannot feel any other way than you’re accustomed to? If so, maybe your identity has become a matter of how you appear to the world on the outside, to distract you and change how you feel on the inside.
On the day I recognized the core reason for my unhappiness, I also realized that I needed the external world to remember who I was. My identity had become the people I talked to, the cities I visited, the things I did while I was traveling, and the experiences I needed in order to reaffirm myself as this person called Joe Dispenza.
How we appear becomes the facade of the personality, which relies on the external world to remember who it is as a “somebody.” Its identity is completely attached to the environment. The personality does everything it can to hide how it really feels or to make that feeling of emptiness go away: I own these cars, I know these people, I have been to these places, I can do these things, I have had these experiences, I work for this company, I am successful… It is who we think we are in relation to everything around us.
We can’t face exposing that self to the world, so we pretend to be someone else. We create a set of memorized automatic programs that work to cover the vulnerable parts of us.
Early in life, we experienced defining events, the emotions of which contributed, layer by layer, to who we became. We become possessed by material objects, and those things reinforce the ego, which needs the environment to remind itself of who it is.